When first starting to use online dating, don't be afraid to go slow. Start off
by only messaging each other and watch out for any strange behavior. The other
person may not be telling you the truth. If at any point you feel uneasy, stop
talking to that person for your own safety.
Don't just jump right into something if you feel uncomfortable. Take your time
and get to know the other person before making any plans to meet. If you think
that someone is lying to you or if you are feeling pressured, then take a step
and think before things go too far. It's always better to be safe than sorry.
Always trust your instincts!
Don't reveal too much too soon
The advantage of online dating is that you can really get to know someone before
making any commitments and you can do so from the privacy of your home. Never
give out information on your name, address, telephone number, or place of work
when first communicating with daters. Wait until you are absolutely ready to
divulge such information and make sure that you can trust the other person. Some
people may try to trick you or pressure you into giving out your personal information.
If you find that happening, cut off communication with that person.
Ask a lot of questions
Asking a lot of questions about the other person will help you detect if they
are right for you, and more importantly, if they are lying or not. Look for any
inconsistency with what they say. If you suspect any foul play, call it quits.
Ask for a photo
Sometimes you can tell alot about a person by their appearance. Appearance may
not be important to you in finding a match, but if you see something in their
eye that just isn't quite right, it's a sign that you should be careful.
on the phone
Talking on the phone can tell you alot about
a person's personality and motives. The tone
of their voice, the language they use, and
even whether they try pressuring
you on the phone can be indicators that you should not go any farther with
this person. Also, try talking to them on
a public phone or a cell phone with a private
number as to avoid posting your personal number on any caller ID.
Meet in a safe place
If you do choose to meet face to face, pick
a location that is a busy public area that
is familiar to you. You may want to plan to
meet during the day on
a first encounter to be extra safe.
Tell a friend
Let somebody know that you will be going
out on a blind date and make arrangements
to check in every so often so they know that you're okay. Let them know where
you're going and when you plan to return, or even bring a friend along for
the first encounter.
Most importantly...USE COMMON SENSE!